Must I Marry A Virgin?
Inspite of the fact that one half of society ‘mocks’ virgins and the other half ‘esteems’ them, unmarried people (especially men) still desire to marry a lady they can call ‘tear-rubber’. It is an inner pride and wish for every man, particularly the African man, that they become the only man that ‘sexually educates’ their future wife. But inside this good wish and desire, is sandwiched a not so palatable consequence.
Well, I’m not giving a list of the virgin marrying odds as getting to marry a girl with lack of sexual experience and prowess (in case that’s what you are expecting to see). In fact, no right thinking man should even see that as an odd because every sexually active woman was once deflowered by a man and she ‘learnt on the job’. So if sexual prowess is part of your criteria for getting a good wife, then check the streets for prostitutes; I’m sure you will find the best of such there.
But more seriously, should virginity even be an issue when choosing a life partner? Several guys have a big issue with this and make ladies feel miserable about their virginity status; these are the ‘virgin-men’. They perhaps are of the opinion that since they have remained sexually pure for a long time, it is their right to be rewarded with an equally sexually pure wife. But the world is a very complex place and things don’t always happen the way we wish they would. Human beings are sexual beings and a person’s virginity status is something that takes just a moment to change. People get brutally raped, some are drugged, others get influenced by alcohol and for many reasons, people get to change their sexual/virginity status easily.
But a person’s virginity status should be the last thing any right thinking individual would use to judge them, especially when considering them as a life partner. After all, even if you meet a lady as a virgin, how would we know that she’s not cheating on you after you have unlocked her ‘well of joy’? And how is a lady supposed to know a guy is telling the truth about being a virgin, if she doesn’t simply take him for his word? Basically, our sexuality or virginity status should not be a determining factor as to who we get married to or why we get married to that person. Issued of compatibility, character, integrity and responsibility should be more important when considering a marriage partner because, trust me, when the going gets tough in the middle of the ocean, a person’s virginity status when you met or married them, would be the last thing you would be thinking about at such a time.
Also, there are two sides to this highly valuable coin; its either you meet a virgin both in mind and body, or you meet a virgin whose mind is worse of than a sexually active stripper. Some ladies who are still medically virgins, may have used their mouths and other parts of their bodies for sexual play and exercise. So, if that be the case, I can safely throw the question back to you. Must you marry a virgin? The answer is NO. Marry the person not the person’s genital structure.